Asked: How to compliment someone?
I’ll start this question by adding some important context. I’m not very good at social interactions and never really had a chance to develop my social skills while growing up (for reasons I won’t go into) especially with regards to the opposite sex. I struggle with things most people will find come naturally to them, or don’t even consider problems so please continue with that in mind. Thanks.
Anyways, I’ve been getting on fairly well with someone at work (it’s just low-paid, part-time work that attracts students etc. not an actual career job) and I feel embarrassed for having to ask this, but just how do you go about complimenting someone without coming off as weird, creepy or random (in a bad way)?
She sometimes has her hair done in a very cute way that looks really nice and suits her perfectly. When is the best time to give her a compliment without seeming totally random, and how can I avoid coming off as weird about it? I over think everything, especially social interaction and how people perceive me, which can often make me confused about doing things incase I mess up (which eventually leads to me backing out of them). I’d really like to let her know, but don’t want to make an idiot of myself, if that makes sense?
I’m sure people are reading this wondering what the fuss is about and perhaps laughing at me for even asking this question, but it’s something I struggle very hard with and am attempting to overcome one step at a time.
Many thanks to anyone who can help.
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Answers:
Smile
Make eye contact
Look at area that you want to compliment (or bring it up if it’s not physical)
Wait for them to boast and maintain eye contact.
Repeat what they said, but finish with something like “Wow! That’s amazing! Or No way! Well done!
Its easy, its a good start that you already work with this girl. She knows who you are, you know who she is! thats a start. Just next time you see her say ” Hi! (her name) you look beautifull today! :)” and then she will be like “aww thank you” and then you ask her how is she doing, how is her day going, and just talk! :)”- ask her questions about herself, try to get to know her, try to make it a daily thing when you can talk to her, after a week or so, get her number, and maybe ask her out to coffee (you pay of course) and ya! 🙂 — i am a very social person, and i assist lots of shy people on how to talk to people (especially the other gender) so if you want, you can add me as a contact, and i will help you out whenever you need it! 🙂 -goodluck man! 🙂
Okay, here ya go..
Start a conversation with her.. any thing will do,
Let the conversation lead it’s self around for a while, and if it gets to a point where ya’ll are talking about how you get ready for something or if she talks about her hair,, then you’d want to bring it up,, Be like,, “Yea,, I noticed your hair (Yesterday?) It looked really that way:)”
Trust me, if you want to compliment her on something it’s usually very easy to steer a conversation where you need it to go,,, unless of course,,,
1. You get interrupted. This can make getting back into the conversation difficult,, it may even end the convo altogether,, or,,,
2.She already has a conversation plan for you,, that works in two ways either she likes you and wants to lead the convo to you asking her out,, or she doesnt like you andd she gets out of the convo as quick as possible,, if that the case she’ll use short sentences and quick/sharp tones..
I hope I could be a help:)^^ Good luck!!
A compliment is like a song.It has to flow to work well.Take what you just said for instance.”She sometimes has her hair done in a very cute way that looks really nice and suits her perfectly.”That’s obviously a physical observation.The next time you greet her, tell her something about her appearance like that, or even say exactly that.It may be a true statement, but timing it with the greeting adds power and flow to it.You’re essentially saying, “I notice the work you put into your appearance, and it looks marvelous.”That’s essentially how all compliments work.Something catches your eye and then you state it.
shame sweetie your shy, but shy is attractive to woman, well some of them, im one! what i would tell you to do first is if this is tuff for you try something else first. A small gift. maybe a flower, just one. Or something else, go to get yourself something to drink and ask her if you can get for her. has she any idea that you like her? you dont want to make a complete fool out of yourself! but its life honey, dont worry! and you will get better at it! Say you ask her to ice cream, or a picnic, guys dont think of those things anymore, and frankly some girls couldnt be bothered anyway, if she is one of those then you dont want her anyway.
you could tell her hey listen im not real good at this, but i was wondering if you’d like to- – — or just do something very sweet for her.